Trouble holding onto your sanity with the constant turmoil with your children at home? Fret not, help is at bay! Well, if you’ve got kids then you’d be acquainted with rivalry, squabbles, bitter competitions, throw-downs and more to cope with! Sibling rivalry has been a major thorn in the sides of parents since eternity; it is rather a rite of passage and a part of growing up. As parents, we dream of a cloyingly sweet family where siblings worship each other. But folks, let’s get real! Kids will be kids, naturally your darling kids will argue, quarrel, feel jealous, have conflicting thoughts, teasing, tormenting each other but you can help them become more like friends than rivals. As parents most of us know how to handle ourselves without losing self-control, but children may not be aware of their ill tendencies.
We often hear fellow parents complaining of their kids not getting along, engaging in unpleasant behavior, stomping their feet, calling names or pulling another’s hair leading to a war zone at home. This is when the mother and father have to sit up and take notice of the contradictory behavior. Folks, if you have too much to do on your plate and rushing through the daily chores then you need to first take serious note of your child management skills and pay attention to their harmful behaviour.
Here’s how to keep the kids calm
Firstly, remember parenting takes quality time and real effort. To diffuse rivalry, set a good example, as your children are constantly observing how you handle differences and disputes within the house and outside. Do it with harmony and humour!
Secondly, your child’s age is a factor that should be considered and besides, the nature of the dispute has also to be understood. Yes, kill the ill feelings before it gives rise to self-esteem issues and nasty relationship between the kids. One way you could encourage your child to be a proud sibling is by asking him/her to help in changing diapers or feeding. This would invariably strengthen the bond.
As parents you should be their coach, friend- philosopher-guide and help them get vocal to communicate clearly their issues.
Put down ground rules, limits and principles for the children and teach them how to treat one another respectfully. Make it clear that there is no room for abuses or harsh behavior in the house, importance of consideration and focus on kindness sans closeness amongst siblings.
While treating kids equally is impossible steer clear of labeling or comparing your children which would only lead to a further crack in their fragile relationship. Don’t show favoritism or tag them as good-bag-smart-spoilt, etc! Your child might interpret comparison for criticism. Simply try to treat them fairly and acknowledge the feelings maturely. Get their vote of confidence, give a valid reason for making your decisions and allow them to think individually, establish their identity and realize or reason their parents’ intention.
Shield your children from no-win circumstances bearing in mind that it is unacceptable for them especially when they are competing with their older siblings.
As adults, you should help your kids comprehend that their actions bring consequences, and help them develop a bond.
Lina Ashar, a global pioneer for children education, the founder of Kangaroo Kids and Billabong High International School, gives us detailed inputs on the alarming behavior pattern which is a serious issue. Here’s what Ashar shared, ‘The crux of sibling rivalry is vying for parent’s attention. When parents praise one child or take sides or appreciate one child the other child feels neglected, unloved and useless. Siblings spend the maximum time with each other, they share things together, they are bound to have differences and each one wants to be better than the other. This is the exact stage that resentment sets in and this is where the seed for sibling rivalry is sown. Sometimes rivalry is just healthy competition and sometimes it manifests into higher levels and siblings resent each other for the rest of their lifetime. An interesting case study is Tennis champs Venus and Serena Williams who are sisters. On court, they vie for the same crown and the competition is very fierce. Both have been reigning queens of the court, ranked World No.1 at various points in their career. However, off court, the sisters are known to share a close relationship.
You need to be a neutral observer that is what will help build a healthy relationship amongst siblings. Parents need to be mindful when they deal with multiple children
A parent has to bridge the rivalry gap by constantly talking about the importance of family and sibling support. Historical instances of rivalry actually making both siblings more vulnerable and weaker should be told.’
Parents you need to be careful when dealing with your children:
• Treat your children as separate entities, they are different individuals.
• Let your children handle their differences on their own, step in only when the situation gets out of control.
• Let them express their feelings.
• Behave like a moderator and not a judge.
What To Avoid-
• Never compare your children, they are different individuals and they are bound to have different strengths.
• Don’t pick a side
• Don’t force apologies or ask for forgiveness
• Don’t shout and scream or hit your children
Sentiment-Filled Old Clothes
“The Land of Misfit Toys for Rejected, Sentiment-Filled Old Clothes”
“The Land of Misfit Toys for Rejected, Sentiment-Filled Old Clothes”
-You know that dress you have in the back of your closet that you were to a birthday party when you were a child and kept trying to wear for multiple years after and then your mother forcibly removed it from your wardrobe and you cried? I still have a few articles of clothing like that hanging around.
– I’ll be the first to admit that I keep things that I shouldn’t. But there’s something about capturing a day or moment or even a particularly good set of years by keeping an article of clothing that got you through, and you formed a little bond with. It’s a guarantee that the memories won’t be forgotten.
-There’s the sweatshirt from a really great hiking trip that you wear at the end of an awful day, complete with leggings, your hair up in a bandana and Etta James blaring loudly throughout the house + plenty of red wine. This is no sweatshirt. This is pure warm, fuzzy therapy, and nothing else.
-Or those really badass sparkleberryfresh high heels. Like HIGH, high heels that you try on for fun, and always think you’ll wear sometime but they actually feel like your feet have been sucked down into some sinkhole to hell. You may have left the house once while wearing them, only to turn back after five minutes because you knew you’d never last the day with your feet in searing pain. These are perfectly fine to keep in your closet, just so that you can stare at their rare beauty from time to time, but guys do yourself a favor and never leave the house in them again. K you’re welcome. Just tryna help y’all out here.
-There might be a collection of rubber animal purses hiding in there that served their time faithfully but eventually needed to exit your life quickly and quietly. When you hear someone refer to you as “The Girl with the Animal Purses” you make changes FAST.
-Then there’s the Default Outfit- we all have one for almost every conceivable occasion. Sometimes you stray from the Default Outfit. On say, a job interview. You might think a job interview is a great time to mix things up!! On the morning of the interview you’ll change your mind, despite having carefully laid out and ironed the Default the night before. But you get a wild hair that next morning! Shortly before you leave to say to yourself, “HEY you know what would be a FABULOUS idea? If I instead wore Denim on Denim with Patent red clogs! I could look like a patriotic elf!” You do this and somehow get the job anyway. Still, though, this is not a tactic I would necessarily suggest, especially if you run into your Finance/Accounting student brother later in the day who will never, ever forgive you for wearing that to an interview, “BUT D.J. I STILL GOT THE JOB…” (D.J. doesn’t care. He says you went to an overpriced art school. D. J. will never understand your spontaneous artsy life decisions.)
– There are sometimes things that we hold onto that SHOULD go, however, that dress you’ve been patiently saving to wear until the cellulite on the back of your thigh is gone? Yeah, that cellulite isn’t going anywhere, and you’re never going to wear that. Save yourself a lot of wasted time and self-loathing and Get. Rid. Of. It. Your thighs are wonderful, you are wonderful, that dress doesn’t belong in your life anymore. Buh-Bye dress!!
-While some embarrassingly overstuffed closets might consist of Summer AND Winter clothes, instead of putting half of one’s wardrobe in storage, (the horror!) mine has articles of clothing that range from birth to sweaters I might feel like wearing when I’m an old lady. You Say Hoarder I Say Collector!
There is something about the idea of having a secret horde of treasures “in the closet” that just seem to suit them- it’s like their little home! Like the Land of Misfit Toys for rejected, sentiment-filled old clothes. They won’t tell anyone that you keep them around, and neither will you (unless you write an article about it but don’t be like me, K guys??)
Going the Distance
Long distance relationships are very romantic but also
Long distance relationships are very romantic but also very hard. The struggle is real but if you can make it, you are guaranteed stronger from it. Unfortunately for some the upkeep and virtual corresponding can be the breaking point. Jake Armada is someone who has been in a long distance relationship himself and has some wise advice for what to do and what to avoid when trying to love from afar.
Here are some long distance questions to ponder:
-Realistically, can long distance relationships actually work? And if so, for how long/how far away? (e.g. is there a length of time where it would just be TOO long, and not worth it anymore? How about if it’s an extremely long distance (a different country, etc), and visiting frequently isn’t possible?
-Are the ground rules for a long distance relationship the same as a normal relationship?
-What are the best things she can do to keep the romance alive/let him know she’s still into him?
-What about keeping the lust/physical chemistry alive? Are nude pictures/phone sex/skype sex a good idea or not?
-What should be done when things go wrong? (fights, questioning commitment, infidelity, etc). How do you fix bumps in the road from far away?
-Do “open relationships” ever work in long-distance situations?
Long distance relationships are hard. the first thing you should address is how you figure out whether or not both parties are committed to keeping the flame alive at a distance- how do you have that talk? And how do you address the needs of each partner? If you are in, how do you stay connected, emotionally? And how do you deal with the lack of physical connection? Get specific here (one of my friends used a three camera skype sex set up… that sort of thing). What are the hardest hurdles a couple might encounter? And how do you recommend dealing with them.
I’m about to be in a long distance relationship. What do I do?
To have a successful long distance relationship you are going to have to do something people of our generation don’t do. You are going to have to wait. We use the internet everyday. An entire species worth of knowledge and experience is at our very will. We can have anything and we can have it now. Accept each other. If the person you’re with is about to relocate, you will wait. Be comfortable with that and the rest will take care of its self.
The real loss here is intimacy in so many forms. But that doesn’t mean you can’t give your person your time. Do the obvious and write them a letter. Write it all week. Get one of the trendy little banded notbooks and put down a sentence each time you think of them through the day. Not every time you’ll see weird but you know what I mean. Keep track of where you were and what you were doing when you thought of them. By the end of the week you’ll have a great letter.
Don’t over do it
Staying glued to FaceTime will teach you hate each other.
Have a conversation about your relationship prior to the absence.
Opportunity is in distance. Take advantage. Talk about the things that are worth the wait.
Write two letters
One to read on their arrival. One to read together when they get home.
How to Feel SEXY
Body confidence and body positivity are vital to living a happy life. How you feel about
Body confidence and body positivity are vital to living a happy life. How you feel about yourself affects your mood and the mood of others around you, but also drastically affects your love life so follow these three steps to feel sexy and confident in your own skin.
Step 1: Allow Yourself to Feel Sexy
We have so many hang ups about skin, arms, stretch marks, cellulite etc. Stop letting certain parts of you not let you feel sexy. Whether you’re moving forward or stagnant, you have to allow yourself to be sexy. You have to accept and believe you are sexy with what you are now. You may not be exactly where you want to be, don’t let that hinder you. You are still woman and still sexy. It is okay to be insecure but still allow yourself to be sexy.
Step 2: Look at Yourself in the Mirror and Be Positive
Don’t tear yourself down when you look in the mirror. Don’t pick out each imperfection you think you have. Nobody’s body is perfect. Everyone can be self-conscious but you need to look at your body in it’s wholly imperfect form and not to berate yourself about it. Don’t think about how to change your body when you see yourself naked. Give yourself a pep-talk. Find what someone would love about your body. Look and take in your body and how it is changing. Look in the mirror and tell yourself nice things. If you can’t look at your own body, then you will never be able to accept someone else looking at your own body. You have to be comfortable with you before you can be comfortable with you and someone else.
Step 3: Dress Sexy
Wear what makes you feel sexy. Do you feel sexy with fitted clothes? Showing your legs? Showing a bit of cleavage? Showing your back? Having your great under garments then you feel goooood even if no one can see it, you’ll feel it. A matching bra and panty set can change your whole day.
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