Rejection—most of us, if not all, have experienced it at some point in our lives. Rejection is never pleasant whether it is rejection for a job, rejection by peers at school, college or work, or rejection by someone you love or have feelings for. But, accepting and dealing with rejection is the right, and often the only way forward. Here is how you can counter rejection!
Is it just too hard for you to accept that you’ve been rejected? Is rejection by someone preventing you from moving forward in life and achieving all that you are destined to achieve? If you answered yes, then you, my friend, have come to the right place! Get ready to deal with rejection and move on with your life boldly.
Don’t Try To Sob Away Your Rejection over a Packet of Chips
Ah, the classic getaway! Most people, especially women, resort to crying and eating—lots and lots of it, to deal with rejection. This isn’t good: not now, not for your future. Sobbing away your rejection on food, or a packet of chips in most people’s case, will only bring you temporary relief—relief that will wither away over time, taking you back to square one. Surely, you don’t want that happening? Of course, you don’t or else you wouldn’t be here. You’re probably wondering ‘if I can’t sob away rejection on a packet of chips, then how do I deal with my situation’? Fear not my friend, we are going to provide you with all the answers you need!
Feeling down and out? No problem, seek motivation to deal with rejection, and you’ll back to your ol’ lively self before the sun rises again. Okay, maybe not that quick, but you’ll be back to your pre-rejection self within a short-period of time if you look up stories of people who dealt with rejection to achieve great things in life and take motivation from them.
Did you know that Walt Disney, the founder of the Walt Disney Company, was fired from his job for ‘lacking imagination and good ideas’, or that Oprah was rejected by her family, friends, and peers after she gave birth at 14? If they can overcome rejection, and make it big in life, then you can do it too. You just need to motivate yourself to let go of your past or everything that happened in it—including rejection.
Allow Your Emotions to Flow Without Letting Them Boil Over
If you allow your emotions to boil over, you may end up hurting someone you didn’t intend to hurt. So, make sure you keep your emotions under control after you’ve been rejected by someone. But, this does not mean that you suppress your emotions after rejection. In fact, if you do that, your emotions will eventually catch up to you and you will never be able to deal with rejection. The more you suppress your emotions, the stronger they become—staying inside you, gaining power and waiting for the right time to explode out of you.
Yes, it hurts but you need to deal with, not bury it under! By refusing to deal with the negative emotions arising from rejection, you unintentionally accept rejection and when that happens, you’re no longer in control. If you want to have control over your emotions, then you must let them flow after a rejection. By suppressing them, you’re just be delaying the inevitable, which is your rejection taking over you and pulling you down.
Meditate and Let It Go!
Anna, the Disney Princess from Arendelle, will tell you that and you should listen to her! How could anyone not want all of my ‘awesomeness’? Am I that bad? Do I have any worth? These are the common thoughts people have after they’re rejected. These thoughts or feeling only grow over time if they’re not dealt with—appropriately. A tried and tested way of getting rid of the aforementioned- thoughts after a rejection is meditation. Just close your eyes, meditate and let go! To deal with and overcome rejection, practice the following meditation exercise once each day:
• Find a quiet place in your home where you can practice meditation without disturbance
• With your legs crossed, sit as straight as possible
• Take a few deep breaths and exhale out
• Focus on your breath and let go of the stress
• One by one, let go of all your worries and concerns. Tell your mind that everything is fine and it was always that way
• Feel your body and mind going into deeper relaxation
• Close your eyes
• Visualize being the best you can be or at your dream destination
• Visualize that your acquaintance or friend-circle is growing
• Be in this moment joyfully for a bit and let it become a part of your subconscious mind
• Open your eyes and feel the new you
Get Ready to Overcome Rejection
Once you’re rejected, a broken record in your mind will keep reminding you about it. This is a trap that you need to avoid—at all costs. And, you can do that by following the advice given above!